Respect vs Age by Nilshree Damani Yelulkar
I have been watching Shark Tank Season 2 like crazies! Thanks to my husband, we watch something together! So at the end of the episode, one random question from those asked by the audience is picked up is answered by the expert from the respective domain.
The other day I watched an episode and at the end, the question flashed, " I am a 19-year-old boy. There are people elder than me who have to work under me in my start-up. I find it difficult to assign them a list of tasks, and give feedback. How do I deal with this situation?"
We being Indians, our upbringing is done in a way where age decides the flow of respect. Any elder whom you try suggesting something new to will always mention their hair color.
(Reference: Ye baal dhoop me nahi safed kiye!)
And how unrealistic is that to accept? I mean if a new and easier way to do the same things is available, then why do we keep following old methodologies? The same internet that was harmful and hazardous transformed into a go-to tool during the Pandemic, hard to find a person who does not have a smartphone, and does not use the internet! So will it only happen at their level of comfort and necessity?
Age can never be the factor to decide respect. Knowledge and intellect only can be those tools.
And I am very well aware of the consequences of these, initially, you will be called adamant, rude, arrogant, egoist and synonyms. But for once if you prove to them you were correct, only then they will agree. Also, for the duration in between you are going to be the above for them, be prepared for it!
So, the next time you have to choose from age or knowledge to respect one, choose knowledge with the preparation of being Okay with being accepted only if it works, till then you are the villain in their story!